“I was that girl. That girl who felt that as much pain as this relationship is, maybe some people are built stronger than others,” she says in the new issue of Vanity Fair magazine.
“Maybe I’m one of those people built to handle shit like this.”
“Maybe I’m the person who’s almost the guardian angel to this person, to be there when they’re not strong enough, when they’re not understanding the world, when they just need someone to encourage them in a positive way and say the right thing,” she adds.
Her comments are delusional, in part because of her submissive nature and in part because of an irrational belief that she, and she alone, could change his behavior.
Rihanna says she felt “100 percent” certain that she could change Chris. “I was very protective. I felt that people didn’t understand him. Even after …” she says.
But the Barbadian singer finally came to a realization.
“You realize after a while that in that situation you’re the enemy. You want the best for them, but if you remind them of their failures, or if you remind them of bad moments in their life, or even if you say I’m willing to put up with something, they think less of you, because they know you don’t deserve what they’re going to give. And if you put up with it, maybe you are agreeing that you [deserve] this.”
“That’s when I finally had to say, ‘Uh-oh, I was stupid thinking I was built for this.’ Sometimes you just have to walk away,” she says.
Psychologists would say Rihanna had reached the final stage of battered woman syndrome. After denial and guilt comes enlightenment.
An abuse victim recognizes that they are not to blame for the abuse and realizes no one deserves to be subjected to domestic violence no matter what. At that point, the best thing to do is walk away. And that’s the path Rihanna chose.
“I don’t hate him. I will care about him until the day I die. We’re not friends, but it’s not like we’re enemies. We don’t have much of a relationship now,” she says.
Contrary to what some may believe, Rihanna also says she’s not a loose woman.
“If I wanted [one night stands], I would completely do that,” she says. “[But] that would be empty for me; that to me is a hollow move. I would wake up the next day feeling like shit.”
There’s no question she’s all about passion. Just check out her hot photos from her Vanity Fair shoot.
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